Week 1: Praying for Your Future Husband

As a 22-year-old single woman, I feel rushed to find a man, get married, and have babies, but daily I wonder if that’s the plan God has for me.

We are not promised anywhere in the bible that we will get married, but we are promised in Genesis 2:18, “The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’”

I wish this promise gave me more hope that marriage is in my future…but it doesn’t.

I have used online dating sites.

I have given men “the eye” at church where I know (or assume, at least) they are likely solid Christians.

I have looked at men and wondered, “Are they the one?”

None of these tactics have worked and all I can think is, “Am I ruining my relationship with God by searching all the time?” In a sense, I have made a husband an idol in my life. I have put it above my relationship with God. I have desired a husband more than I have desire my God.

My desire for a companion versus my reality of singleness has made me wonder (and sometimes doubt) if I’ll actually get a “happy ending” that I want.

God recently spoke to me about these questions and desires. He gave me a clear answer to spend my time not worrying but instead in prayer.

For 2017, I have decided to let go of my idol of a husband and focus on my relationship with God. One aspect of a relationship with God is through prayer. I will spend a year praying for a future husband as I wait on God.

Basically, I’m waiting on God. God has made it clear that my primary purpose on this earth is not to get married and have kids but to love Christ and make him known – so that’s what I’m going to do.

As we journey through 2017 together, I challenge you to pray over your future husband, too, and enjoy your primary purpose – loving Christ and others. Though I would love to meet the love of my life (sooner rather than later) I’ve decided that I’m no longer going to try to control or rush the outcome. Instead I’m going to channel that energy into productive prayer.

If you’re in a similar place, grab a journal, and let’s pray over our future husband’s this year and allow God to be the one we desire.

Heavenly father, I pray over the women that are boldly pursuing Your will. God, I pray that these women would not find it hard to pursue your will but desire to only pursue your will. Father I pray that you would change their hearts to have a steadfast love and desire for you alone. I pray that each woman would wait patiently on your plan. I pray that during the hard and lonely times you would remind them of your love and desire for them to love you. God I pray that each woman would have a community to turn to so they don’t get lonely. I pray over their friendships with women in relationships. I pray those friends would desire to help these women be content. I pray for grace when they mess up. I pray for self-love for each of these women. Only these things can be done by your grace. In your name I pray, Amen.

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Sunday, January 1, 2017

Day 1: If you have any past relationships that you are holding onto, let them go. What I have found the best way to do that is by writing a letter to them and letting them know you forgive them. I never sent them my letter but I was able to process forgiveness.

Pray that God would put in you a forgiving-heart to move on from those relationships and move forward for the plan that he designed for you.

Monday, January 2, 2017

Day 2: What are you looking for in a spouse? What qualities are you not willing to compromise on? There are so many stories of people who created a list and found exactly what they wanted in a spouse. The marriages that never settled are the ones with the best relationship.

Pray that God would remind you of qualities that make a Godly man. Pray that God would remind you to never settle and for qualities that will make a lasting marriage.

Tuesday, January 3, 2017

Day 3: Pray that your future husband would get out of any relationships today. Pray that God would show him that the relationship he is in is not the one that God set aside for him. Pray that your future husband would or his girlfriend would be unsatisfied with the relationship.

Wednesday, January 4, 2017

Day 4: Pray over your future husband’s purity. Pray that he desires to keep a pure relationship with the woman he is with, himself, and when he meets you. Pray that he would desire to stay abstinent as he moves closer to meeting you.

Thursday, January 5, 2017

Day 5: Today, pray for trust in God’s plan and timing. Lift your future husband and your marriage up to the Lord.

The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me. My heart leaps for joy, and with my song I praise him. Psalm 28:7

Friday, January 6, 2017

Day 6: Today, pray that you future husband will just have a great day. Pray that the Lord would give him rest. Pray he would have peace from any stress on his plate. Pray that he would have a blessed day full of peace and joy. Pray he be filled with the Holy Spirit and walk in truth and grace. Thank Jesus for the man that will be your husband one day. Pray that he would feel everlasting joy in this life full of laughter and be lightheartedness.

Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification. Romans 14:19

Saturday, January 7, 2017

Day 7: Pray that your future husband would encounter God’s presence today in a different way.

Sunday, January 8, 2017

Day 8: Pray that your future husband would have discernment. Pray that your future husband would be able to make the right choices and decisions. Pray that he would have wisdom in his decisions in life right now. In everything, pray he pursues wisdom from God.

Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the Lord, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

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